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October 4, 2015
- I heard that The Dance Gourmet
in Connecticut will discontinue their monthly west coast swing workshops with visiting instructors after the
October 10 event featuring Mike Topel.
From the corner booth...
In last week's Soapbox, I wrote about the vendors we used for our wedding. Oh yeah, in case you missed it, Denyce and I got married up at Misselwood in Beverly, MA, last week. By the time you read this, we will have gotten home from a second reception held in Indiana.
I had a rented tux for the wedding in Massachusetts, using a purple bowtie and vest to distinguish me from everyone else in a tux. For Indiana, I used my own tux that I bought 10 million years ago. Yes, it still fit. However, I didn't have the purple bowtie that I liked. Purple seemed to be our color theme.
With great reluctance, we walked into a Men's Warehouse store in Hobart, Indiana. We didn't have a satisfying experience at a similar store in Massachusetts. However, we needed the bowtie and there weren't many options in the area. We managed to talk to someone about getting a purple bowtie and the salesperson showed us a package with a reasonable-looking purple bowtie, necktie AND a vest. While the package was priced at $60, it was marked for clearance at $20. That was less than the rental for the bowtie itself! The vest was an extra-large which I was not. The salesperson called over a seamstress who fitted the vest and then took the time to sew it up so I walked out equipped for the reception.
This highlighted two points:
- Any business' most important asset is their employees. They are what makes or breaks any business. Any one person's attitude or actions can send a customer running for the door or keep them coming back for more. They can also turn around a bad review.
- The customer's attitude is always a factor too. People are nice in general and are always looking for an excuse to be nice. Being polite and nice to salespeople encourages them to look for ways to help you out, especially when you need something desperately. Think about that the next time you get stopped by a police officer
Adding to the list of things not to say or do at a wedding:
- If your food or drink is cold (when it shouldn't be), don't bother the bride or groom with the problem. Ask the manager or waitstaff to resolve the problem. The bride and groom will have spent hours upon hours to make the event happen and have enough things to stress over that they don't need to deal with someone who showed up an hour late at a buffet and wondered why the food was cold.
- A wedding is not an opportunity to roast someone. Teasing the bride or groom is something that should be reserved for a bachelor party (which I did not have) where the guest of honor is surrounded by those who know them best and know when a joke is being made. Roasting someone at a wedding reception has no useful purpose than to embarass someone in front of their friends and relatives who might not appreciate the humor or know the difference. It could also be seen as an attempt to embarass a groom's new wife.
As an addendum to last week's Soapbox, I wanted to mention something that happened at the bridal shop. They had several branches and I'll have to assume that the people at the different shops are going to behave differently, but we encountered one typical sales tactic that was not very nice.
Denyce found her dress at a certain store. The salesperson said that it was the last copy they had in the store and if she didn't buy the dress now and then, she might have to order it and that would take about 6 weeks. Alterations and fitting would take about a month, and that didn't include the cleaning so the timing would be tight. She decided to buy the dress because she really liked it and when I finally saw her in it at the wedding, I thought so too. I thought she looked fabulous. However, she had gone back to the store to get some accessories after the purchase and saw the identical dress (in the same size!) on a manikin so she really hadn't needed to make that decision so quickly. While I understand what the sales people do and why they do it, it doesn't leave a great feeling about the shopping experience. I'm certainly not going to tell everyone to shop there, even though they probably will. The store probably doesn't expect to see the bride again any time soon so they have every incentive to push the dresses out the door before the shopper gets a chance to check out another store.
See you on the dance floor.
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